𝘿𝙤𝙣❜𝙩 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙮 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙊𝙉𝙇𝙔 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣

𝘿𝙤𝙣❜𝙩 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙮 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙊𝙉𝙇𝙔 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣

𝘿𝙤𝙣❜𝙩 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙮 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙊𝙉𝙇𝙔 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣. 𝙄𝙣 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙨, 𝙙𝙤𝙣❜𝙩 𝙗𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙣 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚.

I will tell you why, keep reading…

Simply put, 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵.

Love is just one piece of the puzzle. You need other pieces of the puzzle to make it a whole- a concrete reason to marry the person.

Check the other pieces of the puzzle..

✅You love the person, good and fine. But does the person also love? The love must be mutual.

One of the mistakes you will make in marriage is to marry someone you love that doesn’t love you. You’ve sign in for trouble.

✅Are you guys suitable for each other? It’s not every shoe that is your size. Likewise, it’s not everybody you should marry.

So, does this guy or lady suits your personality, purpose, vision, values, convictions, aspirations, ambitions?

✅Are you guys compatible? Is there an agreement? Is there an align in vision? Is there similarities in interests, hobbies, values, convictions? Are you guys heading in the same direction? Is your health compatible, your genotype, blood group, rhesus factor?

Ok, even if the person didn’t believe in most of the things you believe in, does the person accepts for you to practice your beliefs without interference?

✅How’s the character of this person, good or bad? Is he arrogant and proud? Is she madam keziah? Is the person trustworthy, understanding, discipline, hardworking or lazy? Does he smoke, drink, gamble or club?

𝑶𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏, 𝒊𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒃𝒂𝒅 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒆𝒓, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒆𝒓 𝒏𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒓��𝒐𝒏.

✅As a Christian, the Bible says that we should not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Is he or she a believer like you? Remember that God and Satan cannot be in-lwas.

Does the person has the same or similar belief and convictions as you?

Even as a Christian, it’s not every Christian you should marry. We have different beliefs in Christianity today. Some believe in Trinity, tongues, miracle, jewelry, wearing trouser as a lady, some don’t.

Now, you can see that love is not enough. Other factors need to be considered and if the the facts do not collocate, sadly you will have to let go.

In conclusion, what I am trying to say is that you should not marry someone only because you love the person, you need to check other factors and make sure there’s no issue.

Thanks for reading

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© Samuel Okolie